The ego is your self image

Yes, I know this breaches one of the more confrontational topics at the core of the Rebelology philosophy with a message that will no doubt make a few uncomfortable, stimulating debate and provoking fear, and therefore I knew it would take some devising. What you need to remember is that, as a coach, I am not here to make you comfortable; I am here to help and support you to lead an authentic life that is free from the fear of judgement and the illusion of limitation.

Recently I posted, on social media, a quote which was designed to plant a seed specifically for this blog. The purpose of that post was to address the greatest obstacles I see hinder, if not destroy, people’s attempts to transform themselves; our social mask. Most people were drawn to the statement about the “ego”, however what I want you to shift your focus to is the concept that “your social mask thrives on approval”. To expand on this statement in the future installments to this blog, I have also chosen to share a rare insight into my personal world, illustrating some of my own experiences.

Exploring such a vast topic requires it to be broken down and there for I have divided this coaching session into 5 parts. Each part needs to be digested individually and fed through your authenticity filters in order to have it translated into your own meaning before you move onto the next part.

This process will be like chewing one mouth full at a time. Personally, I feel this is the only way we can truly understand a principle attached to such a massive paradigm; that is to release a single serving at a time. So each blog you see here allows one mouthful to be gathered at a time.

Over the years I have worked, in depth, with both men and women, predominately women, on their Mind Fitness. During this time I have seen many of your “wish lists” when it comes to your body, your health and your happiness. I have seen a lot of vision boards, a lot of self-help planners, a lot of body transformation collages and a lot of inspirational quotes used as cover photos. It’s obvious that the purpose of these tools is to help you plan, to goal set, to strategize and to be inspired, however I have not seen many of these plans or strategies mention (let alone promote) one of the greatest forces in the human psyche; your inner Rebel (a person who resists any authority, control, or tradition) and the chaos (a condition or place of great disorder or confusion) it is designed to create (otherwise known as the internal instinct built inside each of us that is skilled to create and manage upheaval, mayhem and disruption). We are all equipped with the Rebel archetype to protect our free will, and trust me when I say, it is one of the greatest forces of mankind. It stands in close allegiance with your Greater Mind; the united intelligence of your Body, Mind and Spirit, to ensure you maintain your free will and self-authority to use it. In other words, the Rebel’s job to protect us from bullshit, manipulation, prostitution of our values and enslavement.

NOTE: To those of you who have attended my Stand Your Ground (aka. SYG) courses, rebellion and chaos is not to be confused as the “truck” hit point of a struggle. That’s another blog all together.

We know our inner Rebel has risen when we feel a resistance/push against the current state of order. In other words, a bit of commotion breaks out, otherwise effectively known as “Rebel chaos”. When a confrontation, struggle or discomfort continually arises, it’s easy to think the world is plotting against you, however, contrarily, the Greater Mind orchestrates this magnificent opportunity for growth, freedom and self-authority. It rocks the boat and disturbs the peace, the peace meaning “the current state of living you have adapted to”.

To avoid mayhem (disruption or disorder), some sacrifice their own voice and truth merely to “keep the peace”. This develops a block point where your action becomes paralysed and, in most cases, eventually ends up in state of avoidance. Action and the ability to move forward is paralysed by two predominant fears. If the motive of a person’s inaction is stripped down, it usually falls within these two categories:

•  Fear of the current dynamic, in the relationships involved, that is changing you and ultimately causing you distress, Fear of the disapproving judgement of others.
• Fear of judgement and ridicule is one of the greatest fears that can choke our ability to live our lives as a complete authentic expression of our selves. To the conscious mind, facing the upheaval involved with conflicting opinions, misunderstood judgments and the dynamic of power shifting represents a form of chaos, which means most people would rather avoid the possibility of progression occurring at all.

I had one client refer to the process as “keeping the peace at any cost, even if it means at my own cost”. Considering it is a feminine virtue to be able to empathize, negotiate, self-sacrifice with compassion, and nurture a situation, if left ungoverned without boundaries, this type of mentality can result in complete loss of our self-worth, and without self-worth, we lose all motivation to stand our ground.

For the moment I ask you to digest this serving. Take a moment to translate what is written above into your own meaning, vocabulary and how it may or may not be relevant to you. Pay attention to how some of the concepts presented may have triggered thoughts, memories or emotions. Pay attention to where your mind goes during these blogs as your response to these words can act as a personal road map. Use this map to navigate your way to a starting point or indicate the area that needs your attention most.